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|Posted by wellnesshome33 on December 6, 2016 at 5:15 PM|
When someone in your life is in the process of losing weight, what should you do? Should you draw attention to the weight loss and applaud the person, or should you de-emphasize it and avoid talking about it? The knee-jerk reaction is often to compliment and praise people for how great they look and for all their hard work. But is hearing those things truly helpful?
I have worked with lots of people who have successfully shed pounds and kept the weight off.. To my surprise, many of them have related the same message: They don’t like it when people notice and talk about their weight loss. They don’t want to be complimented, praised or even have attention drawn to them. Instead of having every conversation revolve around their pants size, they want to talk about other things with their friends and loved ones.
For people on the sidelines wanting to show support and love, it can be hard to understand why someone wouldn’t want to hear words of encouragement. It can be challenging to put yourself in that position and understand how someone might misinterpret your well-intentioned comments.
There are people who love to get positive comments and feedback about their weight-loss progress. Not everyone is sensitive to words of encouragement, but it’s more common than you’d think to have a negative reaction.
Let’s dive into the top six things you probably shouldn’t say to someone who is losing weight.
1. “Wow, you’ve lost weight!” “You look great. How much did you lose?” I find these statements quite fascinating. I myself did lose about 15 pounds a couple of years ago. What is fascinating is how many times someone has said this to me, when I haven’t changed my weight at all. It does make you wonder, what is that all about.
2. “How much more do you have to lose?” This is problematic because it assumes they couldn’t possibly be happy with where they are now. Different people have different weights at which they are comfortable, so who are we to judge?
3. “You probably don’t want to eat that, right?” Foods that are high in fat or sugar are often vilified. A person who is actively losing weight might have it built into their plan to enjoy or indulge in those foods occasionally. The last thing you want to do as a support in their life is increase food anxiety or induce guilt about eating certain things. Trust them, and don’t critique their food choices.
4. “You look so much better than before.” This is clearly not the most helpful thing to say to someone, but it does occasionally slip out of our mouths. Avoid comparing their appearance from before and after. Chances are, they’re already doing enough of that in their own head. If they want your opinion, they can ask!
5. “You’re just going to gain it back anyway.” This statement conveys a lack of confidence in your loved one’s ability to maintain weight loss and could be very discouraging to hear. It’s disheartening even if you meant it as a joke.
6. “Wow, you look so good!” This is the real kicker. People say this all the time and usually have nothing but good vibes they’re trying to send. This can be interpreted in many problematic ways, though. People often wonder what was wrong with them before or why everyone is noticing their body. This well-meaning statement can cause body-image issues to surface, which can — in the worst case — trigger an eating disorder.
Even a change in your hairstyle sometimes can make you look thinner or heavier. I have observed, just based on my own reactions and observations. Don’t bring up weight. It can be a touchy subject. Stay away from it, unless the individual brings it up.
The company I work with was introducing a new amazing meal replacement that was a great addition to a weight loss lifestyle. In fact, we were having a product launch and I met a woman at a store. We were having a great conversation and I really liked her attitude and I thought she would be fun to work with. I invited her to come to the product launch. I called her a week later to follow up. She told me that our conversation had thrown her into a tail spin as she had already lost 50 pounds and by my invitation she thought I was suggesting she needed to lose more weight. She went to therapy to overcome that conversation. I apologized and told her that never crossed my mind, that I truly liked her as a caring person and wanted to connect for business. I never forgot how that seemingly innocent conversation was so damaging to this individual. Especially now that I am on the thin side, it is even more important to be conscientious of what words pass our lips and the impact they may have on another.
I don’t think we should feel like we have to walk on eggshells around one another. I do think we can increase our awareness of others’ experiences and try to focus on people, not their bodies.
In a perfect world, we wouldn’t talk about each other’s weight at all; you never really know what someone is going through. Someone could be losing weight due to secretly dealing with a cancer diagnosis, they could be struggling with an eating disorder or they could be going through an extremely difficult time with their mental health. People you’re trying to support can sometimes equate your compliments about their weight loss as an indicator that there was something wrong with them when they weighed more.
Even when someone enjoys and appreciates hearing the positive feedback from people around them, there’s a chance of developing problematic eating behaviors as a result of the affirmation. A straightforward effort for weight loss can lead to obsession, restriction and disordered eating, triggered by compliments that are twisted into motivation for unhealthy behaviors.
If you notice someone in your life has lost weight, ask them how they’re genuinely doing. Compliment them on how happy and confident they seem. Draw attention to their strengths as a human being, and convey unconditional love and support. Avoid conversations about food, weight and body image unless someone reaches out to you asking for help and support with those issues.
|Posted by wellnesshome33 on May 16, 2012 at 8:15 AM|
Why is there such an emphasis placed on drinking water?
My family's number one beverage has always been water. As I passed through my teenage years and into my early 20's I rebelled against this concept. Unfortunately so did my health and vitality. We all know that everything is energy. The energy our bodies are made up of are 70-90% water, depending on what part of the body we are talking about. If your body is that much water.....why would we think that we don't need to replenish it....with water. Nothing else counts as water. This isn't ice tea, or coffee or soda or juice or beer....it is simply water. Since we are not all the same size, weight or build the amount each of us needs is different. There is a simple way to figure out how much water your body needs each day. Take your body weight, divide that amount in two and that is how many ounces of water your body needs each day just to survive. If you are taking medications, that glass of water doesn't really count since it is necessary to assist the body in breaking down and absorbing that medication. If you are someone who has headaches, back aches, memory issues, etc, your body may just need more water! There is a great book called "Your Body's Many Cries for Water" by F. Batmanghelidj MD.
Although finding good water can be a challenge today too. We have all been to the movies and seen the "fun fact" that we are drinking the same water as the Dinosaurs drank billions of years ago. There is no new water on Earth, it has all been through many, many, many cycles of evaporation, condensation, bodies, rain, snow, sleet and cycles before we drink it again. Even rain water today has passed through our pollution layer in the sky and when it finds it way to the ground it may be what we call acid rain. I remember being in Athens, Greece many years ago. They were repairing the Parthenon and the Acropolis due to acid rain. Hmmmm. I speak with many people from all over North America that say "We have really good water in our community". Well, ok, I just don't believe that knowing what I know! I may not say anything, but....when were the pipes last changed in that community, neighborhood or home? Have you seen the inside of water pipes? Yuck! It all needs filtered. Water from a well.....that water table can change daily too, due to what is in the ground around it. Are the local farmers, lawn keepers, using any chemicals, fertilizers, pesticides, another sad fact, although chemicals were only invented about 230'sh years ago. There are now chemicals in every living thing on Earth. They cannot be avoided. So back to point of use filtering. It is a necessity to filter your drinking and showering water.
I have known of the importance of drinking filtered water since my Mother In Law warned me about drinking the tap water when she was dying of cancer. She lived on Long Island, New York where at the time they had the largest concentration of cancer in the country. She knew the common denominator was the water. What we didn't know at the time was that one fifteen hot shower of unfiltered chlorinated water actually gave us more toxins than drinking 8 glasses a day of tap water for 30 days. Wow. Of course showering in water softened with salt can cause other health concerns including memory issues.There are simple solutions to our water and they don't come in a plastic bottle.
Hmmmm, when I began this blog I thought it would be short, but as I am going along, there is another aspect to consider, that I have to share, so hang in there!
Water filtration is the most economical and safest way to process the water you drink and shower in. However, once that water is filtered it has been stripped of it's minerals and it's life. It is now dead water...so sad. Some processes actually electrocute the water, that is scary and sad. You want a process that is mimicking Mother Nature. Let's go to a stream at the top of a Mountain. The water is passing through the mineral bed which is naturally filtering the water and mineralization of the water, the Sunlight from above is adding it's vital energy into that mountain stream water, the water comes to a beautiful waterfall and flows down below where that churning action breaks up the water clusters which also allows oxygenation to occur which creates health living oxygenated water and this is where you see the most lush vegetation and an abundance of animals drinking this healthy living water. Isn't this what you would like for you and your family to drink? So who has a mountain with a stream in their kitchen? Well I do! Lol, I was lucky enough to find a Japanese Health Research Institute called NIKKEN that has prided itself for over 35 years on creating technologies to mimic Mother Nature.They have drinking water and shower water and even on the go sport water bottle filtration systems. They are very economical and not only have ultra-fine filtration to remove the bad stuff, they then add back the life with minerals, natural ionization and magnetism which creates that living, smaller clustered, oxygenated water of life.
Since I have come this far....and so have you! Here is a link to this economical, best living water. Enjoy! Drink Water and LIve!